Being Christian: Simple Answer

….believing in God isn’t hard. Our actual cosmological knowledge is so limited and the mysteries so huge and profound and the ordering of the universe so cleverly arranged that it would be more of a leap for me to believe that nothing or no one is out there above it all. But faith, faith is hard.


Marriage: Truth and Consequences

I can tell Karin (my wife) almost anything because she is spiritually and emotionally mature enough to handle the truth. My boundaries with her are expanded significantly, not because she’s my wife, leave off your romantic notions here, but because she is my mature, strong, helpful and most of all, loving partner.

Love and Respect

The key to the love and respect aspect of marriage is just this, treat your partner as they need/want to be treated. To behave lovingly to a woman is to make sure she knows you love her. To behave lovingly to a man is to make sure he knows you trust him and his decision (respect).

Marriage: The One?

Married folks, tomorrow morning when you first look at your spouse, lying asleep or preparing for the day, choose. Say, “I choose you today,” because that’s what counts and that’s what brings beauty to marriage. Is today better or worse? I choose. I do. Is today in sickness or health? I choose. I do. Am I angry? Do I need to forgive? I choose. I do. This is why we have to say, “I love you,” so much, yesterdays words are just so much air. Tomorrows words are unsaid.

Marriage: The Two-Hundred Percent Solution

We are never disappointed (ideally) and never take anything for granted because when we live sacrificially for another we have no expectations. Every service and gift becomes a surprise and a delight! Every failure becomes just another challenge to love through!

Marriage, An Introduction

I am surrounded by divorce. It’s in my water. It’s in my food. It’s in the keys of my computer. It’s in my closet on my clothes because it won’t wash out in the laundry. It smells like tears and broken bones and sulfur. It tastes like sorrow and blood.

Pursuit: Lessons From a Persistent Breaking

God pursues us every day with a thousand words of love and encouragement. He pursues us with His people that He sent to love us. He pursues us with sunrises and sunsets and stars in the dark of night. He pursues us in the joy of laughter and the depth of art. He pursues us in mathematics and music and physics and biology, through all of our stories in books and movies and comics and songs.

to whom it may concern

He cries for you when you constantly cut yourself with old knives of broken memories. He hurts for you when you go back to your drug of choice again and again seeking solace. He is dying to see you free.


“I believe that there is one story in the world, and only one. . . . Humans are caught—in their lives, in their thoughts, in their hungers and ambitions, in their avarice and cruelty, and in their kindness and generosity too—in a net of good and evil. . . . There is no other story. A man, after he has brushed off the dust and chips of his life, will have left only the hard, clean questions: Was it good or was it evil? Have I done well—or ill?”-John Steinbeck